Over the years that 8 DAYS had known Aloysius Pang, he had struck us as a gentle soul. An intelligent actor who had maturity and depth way beyond his young age. Like everybody else, we were saddened to hear of his passing after he got seriously injured in an accident during his reservist training in New Zealand.

As it turns out, the 28-year-old’s biggest role wasn’t the one he played on-screen; it was the one he played in people’s lives. He was the ‘Dai Lo’ (big brother and boss in Cantonese slang) to his fellow Dukes Ian Fang and Shane Pow. He impressed his showbiz seniors like Zoe Tay with his thoughtfulness (Ah Jie had reminisced on Instagram about Aloy going out of his way to send her home after work). His co-star Jeremy Chan recalled how Aloy had been the first to check on him, when he was hit hard by a stray football while they were filming the Ch 8 drama World at Your Feet.

Everyone had their own fond memories of Aloysius Pang. But it came as a shock to all when it was revealed that Jayley Woo, 27, had the most history with him. The duo sparked dating rumours in 2015 when they acted as a couple in the Ch 8 dramas Tiger Mum and Super Senior, though they had both dismissed the speculation. "If something happens, it happens, but at the moment, I don’t have feelings for Jayley," said Aloysius in a Toggle interview. 

When news of his death broke, Jayley revealed on her Instagram (@jiaqiwoo) that she and Aloy had, in fact, been in a secret relationship for several years. Their pairing was so low-profile, no media outlet caught wind of Jayley flying to New Zealand with Aloysius' family to visit him in hospital. She had also kept mum about her trip on social media and merely posted photos of herself with Aloysius, fervently hoping that he will make a full recovery.

After his shock passing, she Instagrammed a photo of herself with him, and another one of her holding his hand on the hospital bed. She also posted an eulogy caption in Chinese, which we have translated:

“To you, my most beloved
August 24 is your birthday
January 4 is a special day for us
On January 24, you left us without a word
There’s only your cold and stiff hands left
Why is it such a coincidence that my favourite number is 4
Why did you heartlessly leave me alone
How could you bear to leave this world
Why did you do this to me 

I’m not lucky enough to be your wife in this life
But in the next life, we must be husband-and-wife
I love you, I really, really love you
Thank you for taking care of me for the past years
I will always love you, please have a good journey ahead
Visit me in my dreams, do you understand?
And, I still won’t forgive you for the rest of my life
You'll always be a part of me, my man.
We shall meet in the next lifetime, till death do us apart baby boy.

If Aloysius’ death had seemed surreal — it was mere minutes ago that we watched him on Toggle while writing this story — Jayley’s heartbreaking Instagram posts cemented the fact that Singapore had lost one of its brightest stars all too soon. In a long series of Instagram Stories, she recounted the private moments and romantic milestones they had shared in their relationship, the unexpected revelation of their love for each other would leave only the most hard-hearted person unmoved…