Hong Ling Didn’t Share Deepest Secrets With Fiancé Nick Teo, Whom She’s Dated For 8 Years, Until A Few Weeks Ago

In the new episode of YES 933 DJ  Zhong Kunhua's  podcast  Kunversations, the jock invited  Hong Ling, 28, and  Edwin Goh, 28, to share "what love has taught them".  

Hong Ling is  engaged to actor Nick Teo, 33, whom she's dated for eight years, while Edwin went public earlier this year with his new bae  Rachel Wan, 27, whom he got to know better filming 2023 Mediacorp Strike Gold.  

At the start of the episode, Hong Ling and Edwin are first asked if they would take the initiative to court a person. 

Recalling her experience with Nick, Hong Ling shares that she was in fact the one who tried creating opportunities to spend time with him while they were filming the long form series 118. 

"I'd look at our filming schedules and if I see that our call time is the same, I'd text to ask if he wants to go to work together," she says. 

Kunhua then asks Hong Ling what she thinks of Edwin, to which she chuckles: "Oh, he's extremely enthusiastic, sometimes I even find him too mushy. He dotes on his girlfriend like crazy. When we have gatherings, the two of them will be at one side, being super chummy and sweet!" 

Edwin demurs. 

 "In the past I would pamper [girlfriends] more, I used to put [my girlfriend's] needs before mine. But as I grew up I learnt that isn't very healthy. Everyone has their needs, if you don't let them know your needs, that will lead to conflicts," he muses. 

Meanwhile, Hong Ling confesses she's in fact quite the opposite, admitting that she "used to place [herself] before others".  

"In the first few years of dating Nick, I was always like that. He was the one who always gave in to me. I only learnt this in the past few years, so I'm really thankful that in these eight years, he didn't give up on me," she beams.  

So what type of lover do Hong Ling and Edwin think Kunhua is then? 

Opinionated, they say.  

Is that what Hong Ling and Edwin like in a partner? 

Hong Ling's answer: "No! Because I'm a very opinionated person!"  

On the other hand, Edwin says he's an opinionated person who enjoys having an opinionated partner.  

Hong Ling then adds that, these days, many people choose to keep mum in order to pacify their partners which is "very unhealthy".  

“I used to make was to keep my feelings to myself,” reveals Edwin. “I chose to bottle them up to avoid conflict. But if you keep your emotions to yourself, your partner will never know," says Edwin. 

Kunhua, on the other hand, is more confrontational when it comes to love matters. 

"I need to talk things out and get to the bottom of things. What made you angry? Was it what I said or the way I said it? I need to know so that I won’t do it again," he reasons, adding that he really dislikes arguing because it "hurts a relationship". 

Hong Ling confesses that being in a relationship taught her how to “love a person”. 

"In the past I always wanted to be the receiver, but now I learnt that it goes both ways. I used to not trust people easily, and even though Nick and I are getting married soon, I only told him two of my deepest secrets a couple of weeks ago. Even my parents don't know about it.”  

What did Nick do to make Hong Ling finally decide to open up about something she describes as “embarrassing” after eight years? 

"It's a feeling… he's been the same since we started dating. But I just felt like it's the right time," she says, admitting she herself was surprised she opened up to him.  

Meanwhile, it’s taken Edwin way less time to become this candid with girlfriend Rachel. 

"In my past relationships, I couldn't share my deepest secrets. But now, I'm finally able to say them out," he says, which leads Hong Ling to exclaim: "Wow, but you've only been together for such a short period of time!"  

When it comes to pet peeves, Hong Ling can't stand it when her partner speaks to her in a sarcastic manner, even if he doesn't mean it.  

"I would think: "What are you laughing at? I'm telling you something serious," she chuckles. 

Turns out Hong Ling just doesn't like it when others make her feel "stupid" or "belittled". 

Edwin, for his part, hates it when others interrupt him. 

"Because it takes a lot of courage for me to speak my mind, so if they cut me off when I'm about to share I'll get angry and shut down. I'll only let them know after a while that what they did upset me," said Edwin. 

Photos: Zhong Kunhua, Hong Ling, Edwin Goh/Instagram 

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